If your relationship house is on fire cool the anger flames. Go back and put the flames out rather than chase the person who lit the fire in the first place. If you chase that person, your house will burn down and your relationship will be in ruins. STEPS TO FOLLOW Contain your anger: do [...]
When is it Love? Love calls for courage, strength and commitment. It needs a soft heart that is vulnerable to pain and grief. Love builds a bridge between you and everything. It allows you to take risks. It involves high risk with high stakes and high gains. How does Couples Therapy help? Linda Taylor shows [...]
COUPLES COUNSELLING CAN ENCOURAGE CARING BEHAVIOURS Often in long term relationships encouraging caring behaviours can erode. Over time couples settle into the routines of daily living in such a way that they focus less on caring behaviours. The initial joy of the relationship can become a job. Regardless of whether the relationship is new or [...]
A Personal Essay from our Family Matters Department After his third or fourth date with her, my son said to me during a phone conversation, “I don’t know, I just like this girl.” He sounded perplexed—as if this realization were a large rock he’d tried to get around but couldn’t, and was surprised that [...]
Create a Resourceful Marriage Refine your thoughts to enhance your marriage Your mind is a blueprint for creation, reprogram it to create what you want. You move through a range altered states 24/7. These are mental and emotional states, some of which are highly resourceful and some not so resourceful. By being in the present [...]
SATISIFIED MARRIAGES ARE PREDICTABLE People are wanting to connect on some level with romance and eventually an intimate, happy and long-lasting marriage. The average couple take 6 years before seeking help for marital problems and almost 50% of marriages end in the first 7 years. Many social and cultural forces shape intimate relationships of today. [...]
Science Says Lasting Relationships Come Down To 2 Basic Traits EMILY ESFAHANI SMITH, The AtlanticNov. 9, 2014, 3:20 PM Science says lasting relationships come down to—you guessed it—kindness and generosity. Every day in June, the most popular wedding month of the year, about 13,000 American couples will say “I do,” committing to a lifelong relationship [...]
Being positively engaged in your partner lets them know that you value them and that you will stay close. Couples can learn to use the language of love and build conversations that build a loving relationship house. In this relationship house there is a special kind of attention that we can only give to a loved one. When you gaze [...]
MASTER OR DISASTER COUPLE SCIENCE Research has been able to define master or disaster couple science. Master couples live in a sound relationship house. What they do in relationship is very different to what disaster couples do. QUALITES OF MASTER RELATIONSHIPS Are you a high functioning COUPLE? There is more positivity than negativity, 5:1 ratio You turn towards each [...]
BUILD FRIENDSHIP TO CREATE SAFE RELATIONSHIP SPACE Well known relationship experts, Dr's John and Julie Gottman, say that anger in conflict is not dangerous it is the escalation of anger that causes most damage, "only 31% of couples' major areas of continuing disagreement was about a resolvable issue. 69% of the time it was about and [...]
